Every relationship reaches a point when the partners take each other for granted and when they might easily ‘forget’ their responsibilities and sometimes even the promises made to their beloved. It is quite natural and is much common that you would ever imagine. When you feel that you are just repeatedly telling him about his responsibilities, it is secretly ruining the trust in the relationship mostly as it damages the partner’s self-worth. So it is important that you take charge of how your relationship works. You can bring back the magic by simply altering your behaviour and tone. Read ahead as we tell you on how to stop nagging.
At this point of time you might be thinking how impossible it is to quit nagging and naturally you would be sure about not getting things done from your partner. But relax, because most likely the only outcome of your constant nagging so far might be the frustration, anger and irritation that your partner gets. By following these tips, you can be sure of a healthier and happier relationship.
Empathy – This is the hardest but most important step for you, as it might be impossible for you to see his side as just. You must be feeling so angry at your partner for letting you down or for not fulfilling simple needs. But before being judgemental, try to step into his shoes and see the situation from his side. Probably then you would find the reason behind his behaviour and see him in a better light. If your partner is quiet about it, it is completely alright to ask him about it. He would be more than happy to let you know the reason!
Have a positive approach –Most of the times, nagging is done on the lines of belittling, advice or even ridicule. This brings in a lot of negativity and the partner feels bad about himself which makes him ignore the task. So it is extremely important to avoid negative remarks and allegations. Just imagine, how motivated you would feel when someone inspires you to do a task. So same theory is applicable to your partner too. When you try to make a thing positive, he would feel like completing the task on his own.
Think before you talk – Sometimes you might be so angry and mad at your partner that you would want to shower him with negative remarks or snide comments. But it has to be controlled at any cost .Never tell him what your thoughts are on his lack of doing things, because that would only makes things worse. Harmful words would hurt him deeply and probably with time it might even make you feel guilty. So always think before on what you want your partner to understand and try to say it in a positive tone.
The Love Medicine: Try to remember why you fell in love with him or the things that you love about him. Remember that you both are together not based on what he does or does not do. Love him truly and deeply by continuously working on your relationship. When he sees your devotion, he would regain the trust in relationship which would motivate him to make you happy!